Right in the middle of the sermon on Sunday service, my phone went off. As you can imagine, I freaked out, frantically reaching to stop it from ringing. As I looked at the number, I recognized it and knew it was the good news I was expecting… With a big smile on my face, I sent a text to let him know I would call him back, reached for my baby and stepped out of church.
I couldn’t walk fast enough. The door was barely open when I started dialing his number. The second he picked up I screamed “Is the baby here yet?!?!” My brother excitedly responded “Yup!” My new nephew had arrived and I could not be happier. I had a million questions… “How are mum and baby? Everything went well in delivery? What did the baby weigh??” As he tried to answer all my questions, I listened with excitement and paid attention to every detail.
At some point, I looked up and I caught the attention of a friend from church. She could tell I was on the phone but wanted to talk. So then she mouths “How tall are you?” I was confused. Half trying to listen to the phone conversation, half trying to figure the point of the question I responded 5’ 8. She laughed and said “I saw your post about you being 140lbs now, I am 8 months pregnant and 150lbs so I thought to myself I guess she’s happy being fat”
Wait what??? Did she just call me fat? I signaled to her that I was on the phone. Still Aww-ing and Ahh-ing, I focused on details of my nephew. When I got off the phone I saw her a few steps away so I went up to her “Hey, what where you saying again? I was on the phone, not sure I understood”
She laughed and goes “Oh, I am 5’4. When I saw your Instagram post, in my mind we were the same height so I figured, if you were happy at that weight, I could be too. Lol. But clearly you are much taller than me and in person you look skinny”…. Ohhhh so no cause for alarm, I smiled and kept calm. lol I told her that the goal was not to be skinny but that indeed height does make a huge difference to how your weight is distributed. 10lbs would look really different on people with varying heights. At some point before I got pregnant, I dropped to 135lbs and looked like I was suffering in life. Lol. At that point I made a decision to gain 5lbs and maintained my weight at 140. As soon as baby was born, I knew my goal was 140 and nothing less.
See, when you are setting your goals, make sure it is super personal. The only person that matter is you. Its all about how healthy you need to be, how you feel and what you want to look like. At the end of the day all those factors are how you determine a realistic goal for you. So set your goals today and go for it. Everyday you wait, is a day of results you are missing out on. If you are trying to find what is realistic for you and need to chat about it, reach out to me and I will be more than happy to help out!
